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MOTHERHOOD » BOOK CLUB » It’s Never Too Early to Talk About Sex with Your Kids

It’s Never Too Early to Talk About Sex with Your Kids

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May 1, 2015 By Katelyn Fagan 10 Comments

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Parents today have a greater responsibility than ever to talk to their children about sex, intimacy, proper body images, privacy, sacredness, and what is right and wrong at young ages. While I don’t necessarily believe the world is full of more child molesters and sexual predators than ever before, it is teeming with people who do not have a correct or healthy view of sexuality, intimacy, marriage, relationships, boundaries, privacy, and pornography. Our media is over-saturated with messages and images that support incorrect views on sex. And since our world is consuming and more media in larger quantities, children at younger and younger ages are being exposed to graphic images, pornography, and incorrect views about our bodies and relationships. As parents we have the moral obligation to instruct our children in what is good about our genders, the opposite gender, sex, intimacy, and our bodies. As parents we have the blessed opportunity to be the one who our children turn to when confronted with shocking or new information and images, someone who loves them and trusts them. So we need to talk early and frequently with our children about sex.30 Days of Sex Talks

I was recently given the book 30 Days of Sex Talks: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy for Ages 3-7 (they have books for kids 8-11 and 12+ too!) to review and I love what the Educate and Empower Kids company is doing with these books. I agreed to review this book, in part because I had already written two posts on my site about talking to kids about sex – What to do when those Awkward Mother-Daughter Conversations Start and How did the baby get in your tummy? 6 Tips for Having “The Talk” with Preschoolers. My husband and I are working hard to establish an open dialogue at home about our bodies, about men, women, marriage, kissing, relationships, privacy, and all of it. Our oldest, twin girls, just turned five, and are curious often about different things, and about how things work and why things are the way they are.

What I really like about the 30 Days of Sex Talks is that the 30 days are more like 30 mini discussions to have with your kids. It’s a curriculum of dialogue you should have and discuss with your children in the various age ranges. At five, the middle point of this beginner book (ages 3-7) they are able to understand most of the material found in it, and most of it will apply to them.

30 Days of Sex Talks Day 2 3-7

While my husband and I have already discussed many of the lessons found in this book, especially the first 10 days, I realize there are still several things we haven’t discussed with with our daughters, or things that our girls aren’t doing well, like locking the bathroom door behind them in public restrooms (or at friend’s houses or in our own house). And we haven’t talked to them about what to do if they need help in a bathroom, or about which adults to trust and who might not be good to trust (other than of course the typical “stranger danger” people trying to offer them candy, grab them, or take them away, etc). And we haven’t really gotten very far into a conversation about romantic love, or about pornography.30 Days of Sex Talks Day 26 pornography

Many of these days really require that my husband and I discuss between ourselves what we think about a given topic, what our house rules will be, what we’ll call certain body parts, what is and isn’t acceptable, and so on. The best way to have these sex talks with our kids is of course with my husband beside me. Like I mentioned in my previous post, being on the same page with your spouse, and rehearsing what you’ll say, helps you feel comfortable talking about these sometimes difficult subjects with your children.

I highly recommend this series of books for you to use as a guide for you family. The book is short, the daily lessons are just simple bullet points about one aspect of sexual intimacy. Several are even positive and lighthearted like day 14 – “You have feelings and emotions that connect you.” and Day 1:30 Days of Sex Talks Day 1 3-7

Whether you pick up 30 Days of Sex Talk or not, think seriously about talking to your kids about sex. It’s really never too early. And as you have mini, organic, dialogues, they will become easier, and your child will (hopefully) be comfortable talking to you about confusing images or feelings they may have seen or experienced. That is definitely what you want!  You are their moral guide to understand their bodies, their gender, their privacy, and someday sex and intimacy. So, make sure your child can talk to you, again and again, not just during some big, one-time-only “the talk.”

How early have you started to your kids about these types of things? Is it easy for you, or not so much?30 Days of Sex Talks Reading Together

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  1. Chelsea @ Life With My Littles says

    May 1, 2015 at 4:31 PM

    This is so awesome! I want to get the first one for our son! I don’t think he would understand much of it yet, but I want to get it now so I have it when he’s ready! Thank you so much for sharing this. It’s such an important topic, and we definitely need to teahc our kids before they hear wrong things from friends or the media. Thank you!

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  2. Jenny @ Unremarkable Files says

    May 1, 2015 at 5:10 PM

    I think it’s really important to talk to them early, for two reasons.

    1) before they hit puberty, they haven’t absorbed all the cultural messages about sex and don’t yet feel that it’s an awkward topic to be discussing with their parents – so they’re reaction will probably more along the lines of “Huh. That’s weird, but okay” rather than “Oh my gosh, how embarrassing that my mother is talking to me about this!”

    2) they get exposed to inappropriate images WAY too early because of the Internet. Back when Frozen came out, my girls wanted to draw Anna but couldn’t remember exactly what her dress looked like, so Googled it, and silly me I didn’t think to tell them to Google “Anna FROM FROZEN.” They did a Google Images search for “Anna” and some ladies came up who were very naked and very NOT cartoon characters.

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    • Katelyn Fagan says

      May 1, 2015 at 7:48 PM

      Oooh no about #2! I am so sorry. I had to tell my daughter the other day that she could not scroll through images (we did an image search for Princess Nausicaa toys, and there can be some weird images/people in the Anime realm) without me! And I do think #1 is also true to help your child develop correct views of their bodies.

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      • Jenny @ Unremarkable Files says

        May 1, 2015 at 11:55 PM

        Luckily we’d already had the “what to do if you see naked people on the computer” talk and they knew to turn off the monitor and come tell me about it.

  3. Hezzi-D says

    May 2, 2015 at 2:41 PM

    I used to think there was a point it was too early, but after overhearing several second graders talking about sex at school the other day I agree it’s never to early to talk about it with them.

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    • Katelyn Fagan says

      May 2, 2015 at 2:51 PM

      I think what you say about it, and how, matters with really young children, of course, but I think bringing up different aspects of human sexuality, maturation, privacy, and sex at a young age should be done. And second graders are what, 7 or 8? Crazy isn’t it?

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  4. Kathleen says

    May 3, 2015 at 4:37 PM

    What a great idea. We do need to talk to our kids so they know what is right and wrong and what beliefs we hold. It’s not a very easy topic for me, but it is one that was very openly discussed in our family and still is. If your kids feel comfortable talking to you, they hopefully won’t be out in the world adopting someone else’s point of view.

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  5. Kerry says

    May 21, 2015 at 1:06 AM

    I have a 12-year-old son with Aspergers. He’s very literal and visual. I’ve had to be pretty direct in answering his questions. I’m glad he’ll ask the questions, though. And he is more comfortable talking to Dad, of course.

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  6. Mariah says

    May 10, 2018 at 6:39 PM

    Should I tell my daughter about it at age 10 she asked me mom how do you have a baby? I said im way too tired to think and just to turn on the tv while I cook

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    • Katelyn Fagan says

      May 11, 2018 at 8:12 AM

      If she is asking, then you should answer. One of the best ways to have these talks is to let your child lead. At 10 she is likely hearing about it from peers and TV. You should definitely be the one who she can come to with questions about this stuff.

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