Today I took Michael in for his 2 week appointment. Did you know that at the two week appointment babies should be back to their birth weight? Well, Michael was back to his birth weight a week ago Monday when I took him in for an appointment.
Today Michael weighed in at 10lbs 12oz and 22 3/4″ long. (To refresh your memory he was 9.5lbs and 22″ at birth).
This boy is a growing boy! He’s so long! And super cute. I love when he’s half awake, fighting sleep, and does those little baby smiles (or gas smiles some call them). Melts my heart. I can’t get enough of this boy! I love holding him, stroking his soft hair and face, kissing his cheeks, and feeding him. He’s so perfect.
The last two weeks haven’t actually been that crazy considering we haven’t had anyone helping out around the house (i.e. no parents staying with us). We had meals brought to us from people from church all last week which was very helpful! We still have food leftovers in the fridge, which makes meal times easier for Mom and Dad at least. We also have leftovers from Easter when Josh’s parents came, bringing food. And Tuesday this week, we had yet another friend bring us food. Thanks to everyone who’s help feed us over the last two weeks!
It’s actually been nice in a way to already be just our own little family. While some days I have wanted someone to take my girls for a while, having all of us home together, just makes our adjustments and new reality take place sooner. In fact, I’ve taken all the kids to the doctors all by myself twice now and even to the library once as well. The whole family went to the park one night as well as to church on Easter.
How the Girls are Adjusting:
Many people ask how my girls are adjusting to their baby brother – if they are happy about a new addition, acting out, and so on. And let me assure you that so far they love their baby brother! They are also my little helpers. Lisa has helped change at least three diapers and both have brought me diapers and wipes to change his diaper. When he’s crying they tell him “It’s okay. Don’t cry.” They try to get him to take his pacifier as well. They also love coming up to him to stroke him gently and give him kisses. Yes, my girls love their baby brother. And they know that he came out of my belly and that they visited us at the hospital, where brother was born.
And they haven’t really acted out to get more attention from me. They are still acting like normal two/three year-olds, complete with demands and tantrums, but not more than usual. And Alison hasn’t regressed in potty training either. She still has the occasional accident, just like before. What has been surprising is how much Alison really loves Michael. We figured Lisa, the more mothering one, would be all about her brother, but Alison loves to give out the kisses and hold him on her lap for a longer time than her sister. She’s even been found to give him toys: he had a ball while sitting in his car seat. I am so glad that they have adjusted to a new baby without a hitch!
How I am Adjusting:
I am adjusting fairly well, though I credit that to having a singleton baby! One baby is SO much easier than twins! And Michael has been such a great baby. He’s already been sleeping in 3-4 hours chunks at night, which means I am only getting up twice in a night. Plus, he and the girls have been taking good naps each afternoon, which means I have also been getting a nap during the day. He’s been nursing well (obviously from the weight gain!) and my milk supply seems to be more stable and normal (aka no more painful engorgement) already. And I am actually happy most of the time. My emotions have been very stable.
And my body is feeling so much better already. While I still lack good core strength, I feel good. My bottom doesn’t hurt very much at all and I’ve already stopped taking the ibuprofen and using medicated sprays/pads. I am so very glad I was able to deliver him vaginally! The recovery is so much better. My stomach is shrinking more and more, going back to its normal, wrinkly, deflated-looking self. While I don’t always have the time to make myself food to eat, I have an amazing appetite most of the time. My energy levels are definitely up postpartum too. I even took all the kids for a walk in the nearby neighborhood by myself:
How Josh is Adjusting:
Josh is one proud Dad! He loves that boy so much and loves just holding and cuddling him too! And Josh has been so happy and loving towards me, proud of me and all I do. I love that man! He’s so sweet to me.
And he’s been very helpful with the girls, reading them books, putting them to bed, bathing them, etc when I am otherwise indisposed. Unfortunately, he’s been very busy with school the last two weeks, with tests and quizzes to grade, plus a big homework assignment. He stayed all day on campus on both Monday and Wednesday this week, and even left us to study on both Tuesday and Thursday this week as well. It’s been a little extra rough for me because I want him home to help, but we all know that Josh is just working hard like he needs to. And he would honestly rather be home! It’s the sacrifice he has to make. Again, it just helps me adjust to my new reality – Josh can’t be home all the time as a responsible grad student, new baby or not.
How baby Michael is Adjusting:
Like I said, he’s a good baby. He’s fussy sometimes and just wants to be held, and I don’t mind as long as the girls or I don’t need anything right then. He’s a good sleeper at night, and nurses well. He’s growing bigger and bigger and he will surely have a great smile. We took newborn pictures of him at one week old (they’ll be shared when we get them). He seems to not mind his sisters too much either. He loves his dad and enjoys it when we sing to him. He makes the best faces and is just a sweet thing.
So, for everyone that has been thinking about how our family is doing and adjusting, have no fear – we are doing well! While we at times have felt like more help would be nice, we know that we can get along just fine without it and we have. We are the Fagans and we know how to make the best of our situations. But, thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. May we all continue to adjust well to the change it is to have a new addition in the family.