Having twins is relatively rare, I know. In fact, it’s so rare that people always look at twins in awe and wonderment. But, people have no idea what to say when confronted with this rarity. Some have no tack, and others are jealous. The spectrum is broad.
So, we would like to share the things people say to parents of twins…
“Oh no! Twins!”
“Are they twins? Is a boy and a girl? Two boys? Two girls?”
“Are they identical?”
And then after we say they are NOT identical we get often get
“I don’t know how you tell them apart. Must be because you’re their parents. I would have to put a bracelet on one or something.”
What?? Our girls look nothing alike! I want to ask if they can tell their two sons/daughters apart.
“I can’t imagine having twins!”
“I had two kids really close in age. I felt like I had twins.”
“Do you always dress them the same?”
“You must not be getting any sleep! You must be exhausted.”
“Two for one, huh?”
“I’ve always wanted twins!!”
“My ___(fill in relation)___ has twin ___(fill in genders)__”
And I care because…?
“I don’t know how you do it!”
“I couldn’t do it.”
So you would’ve abandoned one at birth?
“How old are they?”
“What a great blessing!”
“You have your hands full.”
“I had only one baby at a time and that was hard enough!”
“Better you than me!”
“Do twins run in your family?”
Are they natural? or did you have fertility treatments?
This is perhaps one of my favorite questions, because why would I tell you, a random stranger, if I had fertility problems? And actually, I had twins because I am actually extra fertile, rather than infertile, thank you.
“They are so beautiful! Congratulations.”
“I could never do that! How do you do it?”
“Do they have different personalities? Is one the ‘evil’ twin?”
“Just wait until they get older! It gets harder!”
Thanks for your vote of confidence. Isn’t every stage hard in some way? And doesn’t every stage also bring with it some ease? Isn’t that parenthood? Isn’t that life?
“Do they wake each other up? Do they set each other off?”
No, not usually…
“That’s so neat!”
“I bet they’ll be the best of friends.”
“I’ve always wanted a twin!”
“You’re so lucky!”
Now, I know having twins is hard, tiring, and stressful. Because it is, especially when they both do cry at the same time… But other times they are so adorable! Do you realize how wonderful it is to cuddle with two babies? To have two babies smiling at you at the same time?
To see two babies cuddle with each other?
A lady at the store the other day asked me “How is having twins?” and I answered “Great!” I really think this took her off guard. She responded with the “Having one at a time was hard enough” response. But, seriously, having twins is such a blessing. Yes, it is hard, but so rewarding. I love spending every day with my honeys! So, I’ll take whatever things people say to parents of twins if it means I get to be the one blessed to have them.
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