On Tuesday Josh got into a car accident on his way home from work, around 3:15PM. I got a phone call from the EMT, a phone call I would scarily dream of when Josh was late coming home in the past but never actually wanted to receive. They told me Josh was stabilized that he was alright but that they were taking him to the hospital. I talked to Josh for about 10 seconds but he had to go because he was hurting. He told me his chest and back hurt a lot.
I cried, called someone to come get me and watch the girls, and then headed up to the hospital, not even knowing where to go to find him or anything. I found him lying flat on his back, not moving. I keep having an irrational fear seeing him like that, like he’ll never walk again, which is ridiculous since his legs are fine (just a scrape/bruise on his left knee) and it’s really just his upper body that hurts.
Josh told me more about the accident once I arrived. Apparently the other vehicle thought the red stop light was actually a red stop sign, so she stopped, and then drove right on through. It was as she was driving through the red light that Josh T-boned her, going about 40 mph, deploying the airbags, and totaling our car. Josh stayed in our Tahoe until they came and assisted him out because he was sore. We don’t know what happened with the other vehicle and its passengers – a mother, and two kids – though Josh repeated asked to which they placated him by saying they were fine.
We do not know where our vehicle is, don’t have a case number for the police report (just hoping there actually was one done), don’t know if the other people were insured, or anything really. Apparently it takes a while for the police report to come in or something. I just filed a claim with GEICO and we are praying that everything will work out.
With some help, we managed to get two priesthood holders to come up to the hospital and give Josh a blessing. But, not only did they give Josh a blessing, one of them left us their new mini-van to use for a few days, and they also gave a blessing to the man with whom Josh was sharing a room.
Their are some things I never want to ease drop on, and this was one of those times. We had to hear as the man next to us was told that “it is cancerous” and that it could be life threatening. Of course the man was upset, crying, and pacing his side of the room. When our friends came to administered to Josh, Josh made sure that they asked the man next door, who gracefully accepted the offered blessing of healing. We really do wish the best for our friend Darrel Hope and his journey ahead of him, who said his greatest desire was to watch his grand-kids grow up.
Josh had to get an X-ray, and then a CT scan, which showed that his sternum was cracked. Because it was cracked, something that is hard to crack since it’s a really thick bone and takes an enormous amount to force to brake (i.e. the seat belt and air bag), it is causing a lot of pain. It hurts to break or move much at all. There also was some bleeding behind the sternum which had stopped, aka a bruise. He is one sore guy.
A lot of the staff working had connections to Scecina, where Josh works, which was fun for him and gave him something in common with the staff (he was wearing his black Scecina polo yesterday). I called Josh’s principal and told him the news. Apparently though there was a rumor that he was in a coma. High school rumors. What can we say? Today at Mass they told everyone the truth of what was going on and prayed for him.
I left shortly after 11PM last night because I stayed with Josh until he was admitted to a hospital room. I wanted to be with him while they moved him to the new bed, checked for bed sores (aka roll him onto to his side! OW!). Josh said this is the most pain he’s ever been in.
Today I am at home taking care of the kiddos. Lisa is sick – stuffy nose/couch, plus teething (diaherra), and today threw up all over me and the floors and once in the crib. What am I supposed to do about a child who wants her Mommy cause she’s sick, and a husband who is bored, exhausted (yet unable to sleep pretty much at all), and all alone in a hospital downtown, and in agonizing pain?
We are grateful for many things in our situation however, first and foremost that Josh is alive and will recover in time. Second, all the family and friends who have called or Facebooked or prayed on behalf of Josh. It really means a lot to us and we are very grateful. We are grateful for lots of little things too, like the fact that we never fixed the windshield on our car (saved us $300), or that I am not sick though the rest of my family has been sick for over a week and a half, so that I can take care of things.
Yes, I am stressed and worried and frantic, but I do know things will work out somehow. We’ll keep everyone updated on when he should be coming home (apparently it will be when he doesn’t need as much pain medicine… good luck Josh!). It will take several months for the bone to heal and I don’t know how long the pain will stay.
I know it will be hard for Josh to recover from because he won’t be able to do much until he starts being able to move without agonizing pain. He won’t be able to play with the girls or even hug them or me.
Thanks everyone. Seriously.