On Saturday I turned 28 weeks pregnant, or officially in the third trimester of this pregnancy. I can’t believe that in three short months I will have a baby boy in my arms! We are super excited!
This pregnancy has been different than my twin pregnancy. I have to say lately I have been much more tired than I was in my prior pregnancy. When my kids aren’t getting up at night (which has become all too frequent lately…) I still find myself tossing and turning, dreaming endless dreams, and hearing too many of my thoughts. I have been trying to take naps when the girls do during the day and find myself easily sleeping for an hour or more each afternoon.
Also, I feel more aches and pains with this pregnancy. I began feeling Braxton-Hicks contractions way, way earlier than I did with the girls and this time they are more uncomfortable. I have to be careful when I cough or sneeze because I might pull my round ligament and have shooting pain for a while in my hip area/lower abdomen. While there’s only one kid kicking and punching and wriggling around in there, he sure is doing a lot of jabbing lately, which is never the most pleasant sensation, especially when it feels like he’s doing somersaults!
I think I am not as big as I was at 28 weeks with my twin pregnancy, or maybe I am just delusional! Or maybe he just doesn’t feel as heavy as the twins did.
Here I am yesterday, at 28 weeks 4 days gestation with one baby on board:
Here’s me at 29 weeks gestation (and since this boy is measuring 6 days ahead it’s comparable) with the twins:
As my belly expands I can clearly see all the stretch marks (more like pox marks) from my first pregnancy, surrounding my navel, which always sticks out super early. I guess I should be thankful I don’t have loose flabby, wrinkly skin surrounding my belly button anymore, though, right? Interestingly, I do not have the linea nigra line running down my belly at all this pregnancy. With the twins it showed up before 25 weeks and ran all the way up to my sternum by the end. My midwife was also kind enough to inform me I have a hernia running down my belly at one of my appointments. Yes, I know my ab muscles have split (what is known as diastasis recti) and create a little mound when I sit up from lying down….
With delivery day nearing I am trying to prepare myself for my vaginal delivery. Though I have two kids, I don’t know what labor will feel like for me or what a real contraction even feels like! Sometimes I feel a little scared by these thoughts. However, I recently read Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth which helped make me feel confident in my decision to have a VBAC and in selecting midwives for my primary care.
I really believe I shouldn’t have a problem delivering vaginally. My mother gave birth to HUGE babies (we’re talking 10-13lbs kids) vaginally and we are of comparable frames, and I am much younger than she was when she gave birth to most of her kids. My sister also gave birth to a big boy vaginally so I feel like it shouldn’t be an issue for me at all. I have good birthing genes.
My plan right now is to try to birth naturally, or unmedicated, as well. I want to be able to move around during labor and experience the whole thing. Plus, I am overall a person who thinks the less medical intervention the better for everyone. I hate taking pills (because I have a hard time swallowing them) and taking medicine in general. I’d rather just sleep or eat/drink something to help my ailment than turn to medicine first. Our bodies are pretty amazing and after reading Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth I think women’s bodies in particular are incredible and definitely designed to handle birth perfectly. I also generally seem to handle pain fairly well and am not overly sensitive or dramatic (though I have no idea if that really matters?).
I don’t have a specific plan in mind in how to accomplish an unmedicated birth other than the few tricks I learned from Ina May’s book. I hope that in the next three months I can continue to get help and advice from others on how to cope with the pain of labor. We are planning to attend a birthing class in January, but it’s only a one-day blitz, so I hope I learn a lot from it.
If anyone has some recommendations–for books, birth stories, videos, methods, tricks, etc–I would love to hear them! I really want to be successful.