I am glad that we received many congrats on our recent announcement! Thank you all so much! Definitely our most popular post in a long time (200+ pageviews!). Nothing sells a blog like a baby!
All kidding aside, we are very excited to be adding to our family. It was a bit bittersweet to become pregnant shortly before the due date of the baby that we miscarried back in December. But, we are thrilled that so far with this pregnancy everything seems to be looking good, though I still a slight fear of miscarrying, which is less likely at this point of the game as I am now clear of the first trimester. I think most mothers-to-be fear something will go wrong. But, now I am among the many, many, women I know who have been pregnant or are currently pregnant this year.
Anyways, this pregnancy has been easier than my first with the twins. Practically no nausea at all and definitely no vomiting. I think it could be because I’m at home most of the day and can just snack if I don’t feel well, as opposed to the first go around when I was in school and didn’t have quite the same flexibility. I have definitely been sleepier (though perhaps more to just staying up too late lately), and bloated and gassy at times, though perhaps more due to a lousy diet lately. And so many more headaches than I usually have (a relative rarity for me). I also feel WAY bigger at this point than I did with the twins, though it might just be the bloat showing. I feel like I look pregnant already, and have had a hard time wearing my pants buttoned all day and hiding my bulgy belly the past few weeks. I’m not sure if I want to break out the maternity wear yet though, nor do I have any summer maternity clothes really.
Also, just so everyone knows, we are NOT having twins again! And we are very happy that it is one! While we love our girls, we really want to experience a singleton, especially as they will be only three years apart. We are nervous and anxious about adding another child to a family with older kids. We don’t know how Lisa and Alison will take to a little baby, or how mom and dad will adjust to managing both a newborn and two three-year-olds. And lately we’ve been wondering how we’ll even survive the 2-year old phase! But, in the long-run we hope that almost 3 years of an age gap will be foster a good relationship between our twins and our new baby as the years pass. And we hope that they will be helpful older sisters.
We aren’t really rooting for either a boy or a girl at this point, though a girl would be the easiest as we have a large stockpile of girl clothes already. But, some family members already have bets in on the gender, hoping for that first grandson Fagan, or to make the ratio of granddaughters to grandsons in the Warren family a little closer together.
We’re in the process of purging some of our double items as we desire more storage space in our apartment. We sold a crib, and booster seats, and hope to sell a swing and a car seat. I plan to reorganize and pack the miscellaneous boxes of clothes and toys that we have and pack them tightly in, but that might come after we know the gender.
Knowing that it’s only one little girl or guy in there also means my plan to have a VBAC is up and running. I really don’t want to have another cesarean. With twins is was always a high probability and with them both breech, a certainty at the end. I’m hoping for a much different birth experience this time around. I plan to research many different birthing options (so hit me with the recommendations friends!) and figure out which method would be the best fit for me.
I am currently seeing a midwife and will be delivering at a great hospital downtown. I love the idea of having a caring midwife who is dedicated to my plan of having a VBAC, but with the ready availability of a hospital in case I do indeed need to have another section. I also like that the Health Center I am going to only has two midwives on staff and one OB. I’ll only meet with the OB once during my care, where she’ll go over the risks of having a VBAC, but otherwise I will only meet with one of the two midwives. Since I am healthy and had practically no complications with my twin pregnancy, I can’t imagine that I would have any issues with this singleton pregnancy, other than perhaps having a huge baby (runs in my family and my twins were almost 7lbs each)!
The decision to go with a midwife was in part due to my experiences last time working with a large practice of six OB/GYNs who treated me as a money maker and spent very little time with me and didn’t have great bedside manners. Of the two doctors that delivered my babies, I had only ever met with one of them once (who at the end was trying to tell me I need to wait one more week before they would do the section! What?) and the other who we have never met with. A few of the doctors at the practice spent the least amount of time possible with us, and truly, they just ran it like a business, not a service-oriented health practice. Plus, I have only heard rave things about midwives from my friends who have elected to have them – they take more time with you, are more patient, don’t treat you like a number, and don’t intervene medically unless necessary. With my desire to have a VBAC, I did not want to go to an OB who, upon hearing my desire, would say, “Well, we’ll try and see what happens, but there are risks involved… blah blah blah.” I want a doctor who says, “We do VBAC’s all the time and they are very successful. I am very optimistic that you will also be successful based upon your health, age, and reasons behind your previous C-section,” which was exactly what I heard from my midwife.
We are hoping for a healthy, happy pregnancy. Wish us luck and that everything will work out!
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