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Over Christmas break, when I was visiting my brother Tyler, we all went out and watched Disney’s FROZEN at the movie theater. And I thoroughly enjoyed it, as did everyone I went with. Afterwards I couldn’t stop hearing about the movie, but especially the “Let It Go” song. It was everywhere, in more versions by more singers then a song only a few months old generally receives! It was awesome, and definitely stuck in everyone’s head, including my own.So, I was thrilled to finally pick up our very own copy of Disney’s FROZEN on DVD this Tuesday, March 18, 2014 at Wal-mart – and for only $14.96 (regularly $16.96)! Though, I could’ve picked up a specially marked package of Eggo Waffles (24 count) for a $5 off coupon the FROZEN DVD to get it for even less. After nap time we watched Disney’s FROZEN for the second time and it was as funny, charming, and as beautiful as I remembered. But, just like the first time I watched it, I knew that there was something different (and difficult) about this relationship between the sisters Anna and Elsa. I am amazed by the love Anna had for her sister Elsa, despite everything Elsa does to push her away. Anna taught me a lot about true sisterly love.
Anna and Elsa’s relationship as children
The relationship between the two sisters as children was genuinely great! They crawled into each others beds, played together, laughed, had fun, and worked together as a team.They were really close. The sisters were best friends.
Elsa as a child was still the more responsible older sister; but, it’s apparent that she was still just an innocent child, who had fun, laughed, and used her powers to entertain her younger sister. Anna holds onto her childhood memories of she and Elsa with fondness and love, helped by the fact that fun was all that remained of her erased memories. Elsa, on the other hand, doesn’t remember the fun of their childhood; she just remembers hurting her sister and the subsequent punishment and fear instilled in her from her parents.
Because, here’s the truth about Elsa. She was abused by her parents. After the incident in the snow, she is locked away from everything and everyone, including her best friend and sister Anna, to live isolated, locked up, in one room of their enormous castle. She is repeatedly told by her parents not to feel, but to pretend, to lie, to fear. She is indirectly told that her powers are shameful and must be hidden, because she must be a “good girl” and ignore something that she was born with, a power she didn’t choose. She is told to not get upset or angry as it makes her powers more intense. According to the rock trolls, fear is the enemy, yet all Elsa has learned is to fear: fear her powers, fear outsiders, fear hurting anyone, fear feeling.
It is clear that her parents did her wrong by treating her this way. Elsa feels oppressed, restricted, afraid of change and responsibility. She becomes a hermit who is afraid of becoming queen, standing in front of everyone, dancing, and crowds of people. She’s become an anti-social, modest, introvert, who doesn’t feel. And she certainly doesn’t trust anything or anyone. Including her own sister Anna.
In short, Elsa is suffering from her own frozen heart.
And once Queen Elsa is finally free of the castle, free from people jeering at her powers, looking to her, and calling her a monster, and is (again) isolated, she feels free to be her true self. She can finally see what her powers can really do. Elsa’s failure to hide her powers and keep her “perfect girl” image, has shattered her only identity, and she vows to never go back to that image, that oppressed life. Up in the mountain she thinks she is finally free from her past, vowing to never go back, but she is really just repeating it, doing the only thing she has ever known – isolating herself and shoving people away. By doing so she shows no remorse; she shrugs off all responsibility to her sister and Arendelle. She becomes selfish and unloving, because her love of her new found freedom blocks out everything else. But, the truth is that Elsa doesn’t know how to trust people or how to love. Her heart is frozen.
Anna’s Unconditional Love
But, here’s the beautiful thing about FROZEN the movie: Anna loves her sister Elsa despite everything. Despite Elsa ignoring her for years, including three years after her parents death; despite Elsa having amazing super ice powers; despite Elsa ignoring her repeated attempts to talk to her; despite Elsa blowing her off in the castle, throwing ice into her heart, and creating a giant snow monster to chase her away; despite Elsa never telling her that she loved her; despite Elsa ultimately killing her. Yes, despite all of these things, Anna loves her still.
Anna loves her because she is her sister, and knows that somewhere inside is still that innocent fun little girl of her early childhood memories. Anna respects her big sister, looks up to her, and trust her. In fact, Anna has complete belief that her sister would never hurt her (though Elsa does hurt her). But Anna loves Elsa so much that with her dying breath (which breath is a result of her sister’s anger and action), she steps in front of her ex-fiancé to protect Elsa from harm. This is indeed an act of true love. Anna loves her sister despite everything she is or does. Anna sees through her sister’s frozen heart and defends her to everyone she encounters until her dying breath.
As someone who relates to Anna’s personality – a free-spirited, talkative, playful, optimistic dreamer – I love that she doesn’t judge. While at first Anna too wanted to escape her locked up, boring, lonely life in the castle by finding love, she ultimately chooses not to run away from her past, because her past includes her sister. And thanks to Anna, Arendelle is freed from its icy existence, because her act of true love not only thawed her own heart, but her sister’s as well. I hope and pray that my daughters will have this type of love to each other as they grow – a love free of judgment, of anger, of bitterness – and a love full of forgiveness and charity.
I have twin daughters, and they are not identical; in fact, one has blond hair and one has brown, just like Anna and Elsa in FROZEN. And their personalities are fairly different too. Yet, they are best friends. They share everything and do everything together. And they do it all because they love each other. I think being a twin is such a special blessing, and to have a twin sister, even better.
I know that the bond I have with my sisters is different than with my brothers. One of my sisters is my very best friend (after my husband of course) and I talk to her on the phone a few times a week. I love it and the special relationship we have. I really hope my daughters will always have this special sister/twin relationship as they grow, and that they will, like Anna, have unconditional love for each other, despite whatever challenges and difficulties might come up, even if it means loving through being hurt by the other.
While we were at Wal-mart picking up the FROZEN DVD, we also picked up some FROZEN Walmart toys for my girls fourth birthday coming up in two weeks! We picked up some awesome FROZEN coloring books, painting books, a FROZEN Look and Find book, and two baby Anna dolls (my girls love their Cinderella and Belle ones, so I’m hoping they’ll enjoy adding twin Anna dolls to their imaginative playtime). We also picked up the FROZEN DVD, and FROZEN soundtrack, plus a little Sven Reindeer plush toy that makes reindeer noises when you push on its chest. But, Sven will be a gift for my son for his first birthday this Saturday! (My kids birthdays are two weeks apart.)
Have you picked up your copy of Disney’s FROZEN on DVD yet? And tell me, what do you think of FROZEN the movie and the sisterly love it presents?
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