One of my best friends growing up, Jennie, just got married. It is wonderful news and I am so happy for her and her new husband! But, I am also a little sad because not only did I not get an invitation to the wedding, but I was also deleted as her friend on Facebook.
Despite the offense I feel, it’s hard for me to be mad about it. We’ve grown apart over the years following high school. I moved to Utah, she moved to Missouri. I got married at 20 years old, and had twins before I turned 22. She did Navy and then Air Force ROTC while in college. She made new friends and so did I. But, despite the distance, I have always cared much for her, and thought much about her, because she was one of those people that had a profound impact on my life. When I talk about my high school/middle school years I have to mention her name. I don’t even know how many days and nights I spent at her house, plus all the other times we did things and experienced together. She was the first person I really connected to! She helped me become to a large degree who I am today. She helped me in countless ways! Though of a different faith, she had such a great testimony of Jesus Christ and wasn’t afraid to express it! I admired that a lot! We talked about all sorts of things and shared many experiences. She’s someone I can never forget and will always care deeply about… even if she apparently has “moved on” from our friendship.
As I think about the really great (or best) friends I have made in my life, I realize that I haven’t always been the best friend in return. I am not like my sister Brittany who keeps up so well with so many friends that she’s had for years! I didn’t stay in touch like perhaps I should have with those who really mattered to me.
I was the “odd” one of my high school friends. I moved away to go to the Mormon school out in Utah. And then I was the strange Mormon girl who got married at the age of 20 to some Mormon guy who is eight years older than she is. And then I was the crazy girl who had twins before graduating college! Let’s be honest. I don’t have much in common with my friends from high school anymore. None of them are Mormon. Most like to drink and/or party. Only a few are married. They are starting careers while I am a stay-at-home mom.
I think I have found it easier to stay in touch with my college friends better than my high school friends. Even though only about half of my college friends are married, I still try to call them fairly often – once every few months. And even though my single friends are busy with school, work, boyfriends or dating, they still try to make time to chat with me, and make me feel loved.
I recently was able to talk to my very first roommate, MD, who just got off a mission from the Kennewich, Washington – Spanish speaking mission. I wrote her letters while on her mission (something I have never been good at but managed to write a few letters to her) and have always kept in contact with her, despite not being roommates past Freshman year. I just love her to pieces and we have a special bond. She even has a nickname for me: “Scon,” short for Wisconsin.
Thinking about MD and Jennie made me think about other individuals who have greatly shaped my life. I believe that there are certain people who come into our lives to help shape who we become. They help us mature. They are role models, motivators, teachers, friends, relatives, and sometimes even godsends or angels. It’s those people who, when you tell someone about your life, have to be mentioned because they were such an important part of your life.
So even though old friendships may dim, the effect of their friendships will never die. For better or for worse they will always be a part of me. I will still always care very deeply about certain individuals of my past because of the impact they have made, and in some instances continue to make, in my life.
Are there people that you too can’t forget? Or am I just holding on to the past? Who has touched your life for good?
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