What Low-Income Parenting Taught Me

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Every mother has a story: the one that defines her and her mothering. For me, my journey into motherhood is marked by low-income and financial struggles, and has in many regards shaped the type of mother I am today.My husband and I gave birth to twins as we were graduating from college and we were broke, in debt, and unemployed. Therefore, the first few years of our parenting journey were not only doubly hard because we were blessed with twins, but also because we had so little money to our name, even after my husband found employment. We struggled to meet minimum payments on credit cards each month and pay for all of our other ...

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Why Do Moms Obsess About this One Big Thing?

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SUCH a great post on motherhood! Being a mom is hard and we really do need to stop obsessing about this one thing!

I wanted children long before my first child was born. I longed to be a mom, to experience motherhood. I dreamed about holding my baby in my arms. Like many moms, when my children were born, each birth event was photographed and I cried (a few) tears of joy. Every moment holding my precious new babies was captured in those first pictures, and there was joy and amazement seen in my eyes. When I took the baby home, and sunk into the reality of being a mom, I realized it is not all cute nursery decor and the smell of baby wash. There are tough days, days that challenge me beyond any job I have ever done before. Even today, after ...

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6 Signs You Are Suffering from Mom-Zheimer’s

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For years I've been living with a common parental illness known as Mom-zheimers. Parents with this affliction forget, sometimes immediately, what things were really like. Constantly saying to yourself "This is going to be fun!" followed by "What was I thinking?!" is the most common symptom of Mom-zheimer's. Warning signs that you might be suffering from Mom-zheimer's include: 1. You take your kids to the playground. When we visit the park, my plan is usually to let the kids run wild while I read a novel or maybe chat with the other moms. But actually, the kids think it's more fun to sit at my side begging for snacks and ...

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I Was Such a Better Mom Two Years Ago

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Definitely interesting perspective on being a mom and going through that refiner's fire of first time motherhood, times two! Great perspective for moms to remember.

Today I'm guest posting over at my friend Jaimi's blog The Stay at Home Mom Survival Guide. She's a fellow mom of four, including twins, and shares some great tips and resources on her blog. She'll be sharing a guest post here on What's up Fagans? in a few weeks when I take some maternity leave about something that moms obsess over. We thought it would be fun to do a guest post swap. Read my post about how I was a better mom two years ago than I am now, or, well, maybe just that I'm a different mom.... Motherhood is this great refiner's fire. Nothing gets you reevaluating everything about yourself, your life, your goals, and your ...

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Yes, You are a Bad Mom. But, so am I.

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Interesting perspective on what it means to be a bad mom, how this title should not be used to sum up an entire person, let alone their parenting choices and style.

No matter what you do as a parent, there will come a point where someone will disagree with your choices. Sometimes this disapproval will simply come in the form of smug glances, whispered conversations, or loud proclamations of how their child does the opposite or how they would never do that in their parenting. Other times people will get nasty and actually call you a bad mom, to your face. Because you can be labeled a bad mom even before you hold that baby in your arms for the first time.  Did you do something "scary" while pregnant? Did you elect to be induced or have a C-section? Did you "risk" the life of your child by ...

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Attention Moms: How You Spend Your Alone Time Matters

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Motherhood is stressful and we all need some me time, time to ourselves. I LOVE this post about how to make it actually count and help rejuvenate us.

I'd bet you've heard a Mom say things like "I need a break!" or "I need a night to recharge," or "I just need a night out"? Perhaps it came from your own mouth! The general sentiment behind such things is that moms get stressed out carrying the load of their family and homes on their shoulders and need to escape from that load with something, well, less stressful than screaming, fighting, moody, destructive little people, who may or may not be able to communicate properly.Moms do need a break from time to time, whether a stay at home mom, working mom, or single mom. Moms are stressed and overworked and really just need a break, ...

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Book Review: The Christian Parenting Handbook

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I've read a few parenting books over the last few years.  I actually really enjoy reading different people's approaches to difficult parenting problems.  So, when I had the chance the review this last book I was really excited.  The book is called The Christian Parenting Handbook: 50 Heart-Based Strategies for All the Stages of Your Child's Life by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, R.N. *Affiliate links are used in this post. Thank you!* I was excited because as a Christian mother I definitely want to make sure that how I parent is inline with how Christ would want me to parent (as opposed to how the world thinks it's best to ...

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Book Review: 1-2-3 Magic – Effective Discipline for Young Kids

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Josh and I recently bought the book 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 by Thomas Phelan, and have been implementing what it teaches.  We have been counting our girls wrongful deeds or tantrums and putting them in time-outs.  And it has helped SO much.  Having two two-year-olds could be a real nightmare, but it is mostly a joy. 1-2-3 Counting Tactic Counting is very simple.  If a child misbehaves or whines or tries to manipulate you or anything that is a "stop behavior" you count them, saying "That's one."  And wait 5 seconds if they don't stop and say "That's two." And after another five seconds it's "That's ...

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