9 Things You Start to Give Up on Once Baby #2 Arrives

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I’ve partnered with JOHNSON’S® on this sponsored post and all opinions stated on big family realities are my own.  Lucky or unlucky for myself, my baby number two arrived a mere two minutes after baby number one.  I've since added two more (singleton) kids to the fray, officially landing us in the "big family" categorization by a good majority of people. Once you have multiple young people, especially close in age, there are several things you don't have time for anymore and things you realize were never that important to begin with, beginning even with baby #2 (or #3 if you had twins first). Big Family Realities: 9 Things You ...

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What Low-Income Parenting Taught Me

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Every mother has a story: the one that defines her and her mothering. For me, my journey into motherhood is marked by low-income and financial struggles, and has in many regards shaped the type of mother I am today.My husband and I gave birth to twins as we were graduating from college and we were broke, in debt, and unemployed. Therefore, the first few years of our parenting journey were not only doubly hard because we were blessed with twins, but also because we had so little money to our name, even after my husband found employment. We struggled to meet minimum payments on credit cards each month and pay for all of our other ...

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Why Do Moms Obsess About this One Big Thing?

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SUCH a great post on motherhood! Being a mom is hard and we really do need to stop obsessing about this one thing!

I wanted children long before my first child was born. I longed to be a mom, to experience motherhood. I dreamed about holding my baby in my arms. Like many moms, when my children were born, each birth event was photographed and I cried (a few) tears of joy. Every moment holding my precious new babies was captured in those first pictures, and there was joy and amazement seen in my eyes. When I took the baby home, and sunk into the reality of being a mom, I realized it is not all cute nursery decor and the smell of baby wash. There are tough days, days that challenge me beyond any job I have ever done before. Even today, after ...

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I Was Such a Better Mom Two Years Ago

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Definitely interesting perspective on being a mom and going through that refiner's fire of first time motherhood, times two! Great perspective for moms to remember.

Today I'm guest posting over at my friend Jaimi's blog The Stay at Home Mom Survival Guide. She's a fellow mom of four, including twins, and shares some great tips and resources on her blog. She'll be sharing a guest post here on What's up Fagans? in a few weeks when I take some maternity leave about something that moms obsess over. We thought it would be fun to do a guest post swap. Read my post about how I was a better mom two years ago than I am now, or, well, maybe just that I'm a different mom.... Motherhood is this great refiner's fire. Nothing gets you reevaluating everything about yourself, your life, your goals, and your ...

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Yes, You are a Bad Mom. But, so am I.

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Interesting perspective on what it means to be a bad mom, how this title should not be used to sum up an entire person, let alone their parenting choices and style.

No matter what you do as a parent, there will come a point where someone will disagree with your choices. Sometimes this disapproval will simply come in the form of smug glances, whispered conversations, or loud proclamations of how their child does the opposite or how they would never do that in their parenting. Other times people will get nasty and actually call you a bad mom, to your face. Because you can be labeled a bad mom even before you hold that baby in your arms for the first time.  Did you do something "scary" while pregnant? Did you elect to be induced or have a C-section? Did you "risk" the life of your child by ...

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I Don’t Regret Being a Young Mom

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Love this response to common questions and concerns many people have to those who are young moms, or thinking about having their children while in their 20s instead of waiting until later in life. #LoveIsAGift #AD

Before my 25th birthday I was the mother of three kids, including a set of twins. My life is on a very different path from the majority of my friends that I hung out with in high school; at my age (I'm 26 now) some are starting to get married, several are working on advanced degrees, and a few are looking for that awesome job. Even a couple have bought their first homes. I, on the other-hand, am supporting my husband (of nearly six years) as he pursues his advanced degrees, spend my days chasing after my children, and am still living in apartments. My life is so far removed from theirs. But, I don't for a minute regret being a ...

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When you feel like an Island

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Being a mother changes things, including sometimes how alone you feel.

I recently read a post from Motherhood and More (one of my favorite blogs) called It Takes a Village to Raise a Mother and this post resonated with me so much. I cried. And I am not one to cry easily. But, it brought up so many emotions from my past, and made my heart full in gratitude to the women who reached out to me during my initiation period to motherhood. I wrote about my high dive into motherhood and its trials originally on August 1, 2012 (more than 2 years ago) and am sharing it for the first time with everyone today.Growing up I loved being with people and definitely considered myself a “people-person.”  I wasn’t happy ...

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What’s up Fagans? Friday | June 2014

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It's been a busy month since our last What's up Fagans? Friday post. 1. Josh has been working full-time as a test evaluator, and working extra hours every single day, and even once on a Saturday. Because my husband is amazing (duh!) he was officially promoted to a Team Lead only after 7 working days. In fact, they pegged him for a team lead on day one. As a Team Lead he makes check sets, keeps his team on task, and oversees a lot of "fun" details. He's grading less papers and earning an additional $1.25 an hour! It's a huge blessing that Josh has this job at this time, got the promotion, and is getting extra hours and overtime, ...

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